I've got a talent for only letting out the things I want people to see. For all the times I seem stoic, know that usually I am. But not today. Today, I'm opening up a bit.
I have a very different experience of my father than do my brother and sister. He was an alcoholic for most of their early lives. By the time I was born, he had found sobriety for a number of years. This didn't make him perfect, but then again, no one is. By the time my memory kicks in (about age 5), my parents were already divorced. I don't fault them for this in the slightest. But it does inform the way this next bit plays out.
A lot of kids have this idea that their parents are Super Heroes. They learn all these things from dad about fixing cars, building things, throwing a ball. I didn't get that with my dad for the most part. At least not on a consistent basis. From this point forward, visits with my dad were scheduled regularly, but sometimes missed for any number of reasons. I don't hold any negative feelings about how it worked out, but I do wish; deeply and truly wish that there was more time spent with him then, and now.
I am envious of my brother Né and my sister J.J. for the extra time they got, and I know it isn't all rainbows and sunshine. But I also know that dad loved all three of us. And he loved their children. He would be proud of the strong, loving parents that they both are to their children. I know I am. I love you both. Né, happy Father's Day.
There's a lot more I could say and a lot more I needn't say. But some things do need to be said.
At this point it's important to note two people who did (and still do) provide a lot of the "dad wisdom" and fatherly love to me. I have the deepest gratitude to Kevin McNamara, my best friend's father for everything big and small he's done for me over the years. And to Uncle Robert whose personality I look to emulate in a myriad of ways in no small part because he continues to be the best man I know.
To Kyle McNamara, a new father who I know, despite any hardship, is going to be the best damn father to that little girl.
And most of all, to my mom for stepping in and being both a mother and father when she needed to be.
I love you all, good night.
There's a lot more I could say and a lot more I needn't say. But some things do need to be said.
At this point it's important to note two people who did (and still do) provide a lot of the "dad wisdom" and fatherly love to me. I have the deepest gratitude to Kevin McNamara, my best friend's father for everything big and small he's done for me over the years. And to Uncle Robert whose personality I look to emulate in a myriad of ways in no small part because he continues to be the best man I know.
To Kyle McNamara, a new father who I know, despite any hardship, is going to be the best damn father to that little girl.
And most of all, to my mom for stepping in and being both a mother and father when she needed to be.
I love you all, good night.
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